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how to propose to a brother

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no, not for me :phew but for someone near and dear (:mmokay:)

scenario: a girl is interested in a guy. she comes from a culture where it is seen as really rude and shameful for the girl/her family to do the propsing. her family, knowing that she doesnt care about this whole ultural jargon, will allow for her to propose. so most likely her wali will give her his permission, but because of this cultural mindset, he/family wont do it himself, so she'll have to do it herself.

question: how on earth should this girl approach this dude. Islamic etiquette, etc and what should she say. i mean obviously you don't ask: will you marry me...
i know that she should get some background info on the due in respect on what he thinks about a girl proposing to a guy, but what should she actually say and do.

and also if we could get a rough idea from brothers how you would take it if a girl was to directly approach you. not necessarily face to face, but perhaps through an email (which you've given her family or something :$)

we need every last detail here...